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#People-Pleaser #Boundaries #Sense-Worth #Assertiveness #HealthyRelationship Therapy #Triple5LightTherapy.com W hat is a people pleaser?  It is a person who sacrifices their own desires, thoughts, wants, needs, opinions, etc., for the approval of other people.  Individuals who want to please often have poor personal boundaries and a sense of self. They tend to look to others to define them and for their self-worth.  Traits of people pleasers : Never say “No” Can be passive-aggressive Internalize anger Often takes the blame Works hard Are easily satisfied Carry a lot of stress Struggle with being authentic Quick to agree with others Accommodating Loyal Team players Are often overweight Can be over-responsible in relationships. Hates conflict People pleasers often lack assertiveness, possess a dormant fight response (in the fight-flight system), and are susceptible to being exploited, abused, and neglected.  They tend to manage their personal relationships by listening...

#Texting #HealthyRelationship Have you ever sent a text you wished you could take back? Or have you ever received a text that confused you, hurt you, or made you angry? If you have, you may understand how texting can be a risky framework for building relationships . Face-to-face is where relationships live and thrive, so, as a rule of thumb, try to save the important stuff for face-to-face conversations. Here are eight specific things to avoid when texting: 1. Complaints. “I told you not to text me during finals.” or, “You should be nicer to my parents .” Because your recipient can’t hear your voice, they have no idea just how big a deal this is to you. Does it warrant a breakup? Are you only mildly annoyed? Or are you just playing? 2. Insults. “I knew I could count on you to be late,” or, “Typical male response.” Insults, like complaints, aren’t any more fun to read than they are to hear, and they can be confusing. Also, you might regret what you said later when you’ve had more time t...

#HealthyRelationship #Marriage #Partner #trust #Respect #Love #Boundaries #redflags #Triple5LightTherapy #BlackMaleTherapist by ALEXANDRA MCCRAY When we look at couples in multidecade marriages, many of us wonder what the secret is to building a healthy marriage. As it turns out, according to the three mental health and relationship experts we spoke to, the secret to building a healthy marriage is a combination of traits and skills that we can develop within ourselves and our unions. Read on for their advice on how to do both. Look Inward First The professionals agree that building healthy marriages requires spouses who understand the importance of self-awareness and self-reflection. “We have to be able to identify our own issues and work through them—even if that means through therapy—in order to be in accord with our partner,” says Alyce Keys, MA, a pre-licensed therapist in Atlanta. Uriah Cty, MA, LMFT, in Los Angeles reminds us that while it is imperative to take responsibility...

#HealthyRelationship #Therapy #LMFT Posted Sep 25, 2020 Why do we repeat the same mistakes in our relationships over and over? Consider this: It has been a crazy Friday at the office unsuccessfully trying to get a new program to work on your computer. After going at it yourself (without success), you finally turn to the company’s techies. They can’t figure it out either. The program works fine on every other computer in the place but yours. It’s the end of the day and you finally give up on it. You head out and to your car and head home. You turn on the radio. The tunes annoy you, and you quickly turn it off. Your thoughts start reeling: “The software stinks, work stinks… life stinks.” Your stress intensifies. The night before, you and your partner had planned for a cozy dinner at your favorite restaurant. Your partner now greets you at home in a mellow upbeat mood, ready to go. You had both looked forward to the night out. You still do. But you continue to dwell on the...

#Relationship #HealthyRelationship #UnhealthyRelationsip #LettingGo #Attachment #conflict Have you ever looked back at a previous relationship and wondered, “What was I thinking?” It may feel surprising to look back and realize how unhealthy a relationship was and wonder how you endured it for as long as you did. That’s why hindsight is 20/20. Perhaps you haven’t been in an unhealthy relationship yourself, but you’ve wondered why a friend or family member stays in a relationship that is clearly making them unhappy. Similar to a smudged windshield, it can be tough to see what’s right in front of you until the gunk is wiped away. Often, it’s not a lack of awareness that keeps people stuck in unhealthy relationships; deep down inside there is a voice calling for their attention urging them to face the truth but it’s being buried due to underlying fears. If you’re having difficulty letting go of an unhealthy relationship, consider whether any of the following reasons are playing a role: 1....

#Communication #HealthyRelationship #Mindfulness  If you've ever practiced mindfulness, you're probably already aware of the many benefits it offers for the willing and dedicated practitioner. When we open ourselves to this practice, we create the potential for our lives to be transformed in ways that might seem subtle but are truly life-altering. Though many of the benefits of mindfulness are personal and internal—improved concentration, expanded sense of awareness, increased patience, and enduring states of tranquility, to name a few—some important aspects of the practice can positively affect our external experience as well. Take communication, for example. Using mindfulness in our communication with others can improve our relationships and help us navigate even the most difficult conversations. If you already have a practice of cultivating mindfulness, a little intention is all you’ll need to start applying it to your communication. If you haven’t yet developed a pra...

 #HealthyRelationship #BlackTherapist #LGBTAffirmingTherapy #POC #LatinX #ABLM #Triple5LightTherapy Relationships may be defined in different ways depending on who’s involved, but healthy relationships all depend on a few key elements: healthy communication, healthy boundaries, mutual respect, and support for one another. Check-in with each other’s needs regularly while also giving each other space and privacy. If you're having difficulty in your relationship(s). I would be happy to set up a consultation, learn more about what is going on for you. Therapy can help you work through difficult issues improve overall relationships with family, friends, coworkers, romantic partners, but most importantly, Yourself.