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To Understand Our Emotions, We Must First Understand Our Thoughts

   #Emotions #EmotionalIntelligence #Thoughts #Feelings #Anger #Sadness #Joy Aaron Temkin Beck — Tim to his friends and family — is often called the father of modern psychotherapy. A capsule summary of his paradigm-shifting insight: Our emotions are a result of our thoughts, and therefore, to understand our emotions, we must understand the thoughts that give rise to them. Consider anger. Just the other day, toward the end of one of those family Zoom calls that now substitute for getting together in person, a perfectly pleasant conversation turned sour. Before I knew it, I was quite literally flush with anger. What happened? The emotion of anger arrived, sudden and swift. If you’d asked me in that moment what I was thinking, I’d say I wasn’t thinking anything. I was feeling . I was feeling mad. But the next morning, when I reflected on what had happened, I recognized that what triggered my anger was a thought: “You’re insulting me.” In cognitive therapy, a therapist helps you pay atte