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What is a people pleaser?

#People-Pleaser #Boundaries #Sense-Worth #Assertiveness #HealthyRelationship Therapy #Triple5LightTherapy.com W hat is a people pleaser?  It is a person who sacrifices their own desires, thoughts, wants, needs, opinions, etc., for the approval of other people.  Individuals who want to please often have poor personal boundaries and a sense of self. They tend to look to others to define them and for their self-worth.  Traits of people pleasers : Never say “No” Can be passive-aggressive Internalize anger Often takes the blame Works hard Are easily satisfied Carry a lot of stress Struggle with being authentic Quick to agree with others Accommodating Loyal Team players Are often overweight Can be over-responsible in relationships. Hates conflict People pleasers often lack assertiveness, possess a dormant fight response (in the fight-flight system), and are susceptible to being exploited, abused, and neglected.  They tend to manage their personal relationships by listening and eliciting from

How to Create Emotional Boundaries in Your Relationship

#Boundaries #Emotions #Relationship #Couplestherapy  By Sarah Fielding    Emotional boundaries   are limits you place on the energy and emotions you give and receive in a relationship. They can apply to romantic and platonic, familial, and work-based relationships. “Emotional boundaries have to do with protecting your own emotional state and ensuring that you feel safe,” says  Gabriella Giachin , a licensed clinical social worker at New York City Psychotherapy Collective.  Establishing these boundaries can benefit your emotional well-being and lead to healthier connections with the people in your life (or show that some of them shouldn’t be there). Creating and honoring these limits can be all the more critical when your default is putting the needs of others ahead of yourself, adds  Saba Harouni Lurie , a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Take Root Therapy. If you’re unsure where to start determining emotional boundaries for your needs — or how to discuss them with

Building a Healthy Marriage

#HealthyRelationship #Marriage #Partner #trust #Respect #Love #Boundaries #redflags #Triple5LightTherapy #BlackMaleTherapist by ALEXANDRA MCCRAY When we look at couples in multidecade marriages, many of us wonder what the secret is to building a healthy marriage. As it turns out, according to the three mental health and relationship experts we spoke to, the secret to building a healthy marriage is a combination of traits and skills that we can develop within ourselves and our unions. Read on for their advice on how to do both. Look Inward First The professionals agree that building healthy marriages requires spouses who understand the importance of self-awareness and self-reflection. “We have to be able to identify our own issues and work through them—even if that means through therapy—in order to be in accord with our partner,” says Alyce Keys, MA, a pre-licensed therapist in Atlanta. Uriah Cty, MA, LMFT, in Los Angeles reminds us that while it is imperative to take responsibility for