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#Love, #Acceptance  #Mindfulness #Understanding  #Relationship Have you ever experienced that over the moon sensation when you find out he/she loves you? Those words mean the world—“I love you”. Your heart races, your stomach flutters and you finally find comfort in knowing you matter. It doesn’t have to be a lover—it can be positive feedback from your boss (“You did a great  job !”) or a  friend  (“You are the best friend I have ever had!”) Or it can be a  parent  who might be older and ailing who finally says “I always loved you even though I didn’t show it enough.” That sense of “I matter to someone” or that someone loves you, admires you and cares for you is deep and natural. It feels good to matter—to be important in someone’s world. Unconditional love is something all human beings crave, and unfortunately, many people do not get it from their family of origin. The love they get is based on actions—being a “good girl” or “good boy”—or it...

#Boundaries #Emotions #Relationship #Couplestherapy  By Sarah Fielding    Emotional boundaries   are limits you place on the energy and emotions you give and receive in a relationship. They can apply to romantic and platonic, familial, and work-based relationships. “Emotional boundaries have to do with protecting your own emotional state and ensuring that you feel safe,” says  Gabriella Giachin , a licensed clinical social worker at New York City Psychotherapy Collective.  Establishing these boundaries can benefit your emotional well-being and lead to healthier connections with the people in your life (or show that some of them shouldn’t be there). Creating and honoring these limits can be all the more critical when your default is putting the needs of others ahead of yourself, adds  Saba Harouni Lurie , a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Take Root Therapy. If you’re unsure where to start determining emotional boundaries for your n...

#Relationship #CellPhone #Texting #Dating #Deathbytext #Textmessages #BlackMaleTherapist #Triple5Light.com #Couplestherapy Dating couples often make the mistake of #texting everything instead of talking on the phone or simply meeting in person. That's according to Claudia Duran, a Miami-based matchmaker with Elite Connections. Duran said the meaning of text messages can easily be misconstrued and hurtful when someone doesn't text back right away. Claudia Duran calls it "death by text." "Two people like each other, and they're a little scared, and they're a little hesitant," she said. "And so they text everything." Duran is a Miami-based matchmaker with  Elite Connections . She works with Miami's affluent singles and people who are clearly invested in finding a relationship: A basic six-month membership costs $15,000, and a global membership (meaning you can meet people worldwide) costs at least $75,000. Death by text is ...

#Relationship #HealthyRelationship #UnhealthyRelationsip #LettingGo #Attachment #conflict Have you ever looked back at a previous relationship and wondered, “What was I thinking?” It may feel surprising to look back and realize how unhealthy a relationship was and wonder how you endured it for as long as you did. That’s why hindsight is 20/20. Perhaps you haven’t been in an unhealthy relationship yourself, but you’ve wondered why a friend or family member stays in a relationship that is clearly making them unhappy. Similar to a smudged windshield, it can be tough to see what’s right in front of you until the gunk is wiped away. Often, it’s not a lack of awareness that keeps people stuck in unhealthy relationships; deep down inside there is a voice calling for their attention urging them to face the truth but it’s being buried due to underlying fears. If you’re having difficulty letting go of an unhealthy relationship, consider whether any of the following reasons are playing a role: 1....

  #Intimacy #Narcissistic Relationships #IntimacyAvoidance #Therapy, #Triple5light.com ACON Adult Children of Narcissists BAITING A narcissist loves to provoke a reaction from you, especially in public. They will provoke you into responding in an angry or emotional manner. (Your angry response is further evidence of your unbalanced state of mind). BLACK SHEEP The black sheep is blamed for just about everything that goes wrong within the dysfunctional family. They can’t do anything right. Their achievements are not recognized by the narcissistic parent and are swept under the carpet. BOUNDARIES Boundaries are a code of conduct or an unwritten set of rules which we consider to be reasonable behavior from those around us and our response when someone steps over the line. CLOSURE Closure in a normal relationship involves open and honest communication about what has gone wrong, you then wish each other well, say goodbye and move on. After a relationship with a narcissi...