#anxiouslyattached #Avoidantattachment #DismissingAvoidantAttachment #FearfulAvoidantAttachment #HealthyRelationships #SecurelyAttached www.psychologytoday.com May 13th, 2014 Perhaps nothing is as disheartening as the discovery—after years of trying to escape from your dysfunctional childhood—that you have actually managed to recreate it. One woman, the daughter of a hypercritical and demanding mother, recently talked with me about her recently-ended, two-decades-long marriage: "I still have issues with feeling capable and doing things right. Unfortunately, I married my mother and was never able to feel competent in my husband’s eyes, either. I also never really felt loved by him, in the same way, I didn’t feel loved by my mother.” A man emailed me recently with similar concerns: “On the surface, my wife and my mother have nothing in common. My wife is petite and blonde, well-educated, polished, and sophisticated; my brunette and big-boned mother is none of thos