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How to Calm Your Own Anger in 60 Seconds or Less.

#Anger #Calm #EmotionalIntelligence #Emotions #Thoughts #Mindfulness Do you ever get really  angry ? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I'm not talking about the competitive zeal you might get when a competitor beats you out for a lucrative sale and you feel determined to beat them out next time. I'm talking about the rage that can take over when someone treats you unfairly, insults you, or even  cuts you off in traffic . That kind of anger can leave you feeling helpless, useless, self-pitying, and unable to  focus  on the tasks. Wouldn't it be great if you could somehow quiet that anger when it first arises, so you could think logically about how to respond? There is a way that comes from recognizing the truth about anger. Although it is a feeling, it results directly from what you're thinking and from the meaning, you derive from the words or acts that have ticked you off. To prove it, psychologist Jeffrey Nevid, Ph.D.,

To Understand Our Emotions, We Must First Understand Our Thoughts

   #Emotions #EmotionalIntelligence #Thoughts #Feelings #Anger #Sadness #Joy Aaron Temkin Beck — Tim to his friends and family — is often called the father of modern psychotherapy. A capsule summary of his paradigm-shifting insight: Our emotions are a result of our thoughts, and therefore, to understand our emotions, we must understand the thoughts that give rise to them. Consider anger. Just the other day, toward the end of one of those family Zoom calls that now substitute for getting together in person, a perfectly pleasant conversation turned sour. Before I knew it, I was quite literally flush with anger. What happened? The emotion of anger arrived, sudden and swift. If you’d asked me in that moment what I was thinking, I’d say I wasn’t thinking anything. I was feeling . I was feeling mad. But the next morning, when I reflected on what had happened, I recognized that what triggered my anger was a thought: “You’re insulting me.” In cognitive therapy, a therapist helps you pay atte

How to Calm Your Own Anger in 60 Seconds or Less.

Getty Imnages #Anger #Calm #EmotionalIntelligence #Emotions #Thoughts #Mindfulness Do you ever get really  angry ? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I'm not talking about the competitive zeal you might get when a competitor beats you out for a lucrative sale and you feel determined to beat them out next time around. I'm talking about the rage that can take over when someone treats you unfairly or insults you, or even  cuts you off in traffic . That kind of anger can leave you feeling helpless, useless, self-pitying, and unable to  focus  on the tasks at hand. Wouldn't it be great if you could somehow quiet that anger when it first arises, so you could think logically about how to respond? Well, there is a way, and it comes from recognizing the truth about anger. Although it is a feeling, it results directly from what you're thinking, and from the meaning, you derive from the words or acts that have ticked you off. To