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Growing Up with Divorce — The Internal Split

#Divorce #Split #Seperation #Parents #Marriage #Children  It isn’t news that growing up with divorced parents has an impact on our psychological and emotional lives. It’s already well-known that children of divorce are more likely to end up in a broken marriage of their own as adults. It’s also known that the earlier in one’s life that they experience the divorce/separation of their parents, the greater impact it tends to have. Divorce can have an impact on various dynamic processes in one’s life. One such process I have seen with adults who grew up as children of divorced parents is an internal split that can actually develop as a response to divorce. It’s almost as if there is a constant struggle inside of oneself between two opposite worlds that seem unable to be reconciled (an internal mirror of the divorced parents). Consider it a form of “grass is greener” syndrome, or, “too country for the city, but too city for the country.” There are two (or multiple) entities dwelling wi

What Am I Doing to My Kid When I Yell? (video)

#Yelling #Children #Parents #Communication #Triple5LightTherapy.com #BlackTherapist #Psychotherapy #LGBTAffirmingTherapy When kids misbehave, yelling feels like a natural response, particularly if parents are stressed out and their tolerance for nonsense has worn thin. The messiness and monotony of parenting requires extreme patience, and yelling is a whole lot easier and more instinctive than pausing to react calmly. Many parents find themselves shouting at their children without really knowing why. But, despite the fact that yelling at your kids feels like a release, a form of discipline, and maybe the only way to get their attention, it’s important to understand the psychological effects that yelling at kids can have. As provocative as some behaviors may seem, little kids simply don’t have the emotional sophistication to fully understand adult frustration. And the psychological effects of yelling at toddlers repeatedly can be long-term, with the potential to change the way th