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5 Communication Tweaks That Increase Intimacy

  #Communication #trust #Empathy #Attachment #mirroring #reciprocating #apology #defensive #Psychology “Working on our communication” is one of the most commonly cited reasons couples seek relationship counseling. This is not surprising. Often, over time, even the best of relationships can fall victim to negative communication patterns. This is especially true for couples who find themselves under a lot of stress because, naturally, when our coping mechanisms are overtaxed, we default to older—more primitive and less mature—ways of coping (cf. Weinberger & Stoycheva, 2019). A colleague used to say that when we are distressed, we become caricatures of ourselves—i.e., our worst qualities become exaggerated. It gets harder to employ our most thought-out and balanced ways of interacting with the world. However, several tweaks only require a little time or effort, just repetition, and attention to our automatic behaviors that we can make to improve our connection with our partners. In a

Why We Self-Sabotage

SelfSabotage #Fear #Control #Behavior  We all have things we want in our lives—to lose those pesky ten pounds, achieve that promotion, go on a second date with someone we’re interested in, or take that  fantasy  vacation. We set a goal that is near and dear to our hearts and repeat it to ourselves in our heads and aloud to others more times than we can count. We’ve written this objective on Post-its, to-do lists, calendars, and perhaps even carefully selected an image to place on a vision board, bathroom mirror, or refrigerator to inspire us. We have shared this goal with our friends and family and declared that this is the year we will make it happen. Maybe we even asked one of them to hold us accountable to achieve it. So why do we get in our own way? To understand where  self-sabotage  comes from, we need to learn some key concepts about human behavior and raise our awareness of what might be running interference in the background. You may be surprised to learn that the propen

Verve Remixed (Audio) - Nina Simone - Feeling Good (Joe Claussell Remix)

#FeelingGood #JoeClaussellRemix #NinaSimone #VerveRemixed Birds flying high, you know how I feel Sun in the sky, you know how I feel Breeze driftin' on by, you know how I feel It's a new dawn  It's a new day It's a new life for me, yeah It's a new dawn  It's a new day It's a new life for me, ooh And I'm feeling good Fish in the sea, you know how I feel River running free, you know how I feel Blossom on the tree, you know how I feel It's a new dawn It's a new day It's a new life for me And I'm feeling good Dragonfly out in the sun, you know what I mean, don't you know? Butterflies all havin' fun, you know what I mean Sleep in peace when day is done, that's what I mean And this old world is a new world And a bold world, for me

The Chilled Cow: LoFi Beats ,Study, Chill, or Nap

#ChilledCow #HipHop #LoFi #Chill #Nap #Chill Welcome to the sleepy LoFi hip hop radio. This playlist contains the smoothest LoFi hip hop beats, perfect to help you Study, or chill 😴

The Importance of Loving yourself

#Love, #Acceptance  #Mindfulness #Understanding  #Relationship Have you ever experienced that over the moon sensation when you find out he/she loves you? Those words mean the world—“I love you”. Your heart races, your stomach flutters and you finally find comfort in knowing you matter. It doesn’t have to be a lover—it can be positive feedback from your boss (“You did a great  job !”) or a  friend  (“You are the best friend I have ever had!”) Or it can be a  parent  who might be older and ailing who finally says “I always loved you even though I didn’t show it enough.” That sense of “I matter to someone” or that someone loves you, admires you and cares for you is deep and natural. It feels good to matter—to be important in someone’s world. Unconditional love is something all human beings crave, and unfortunately, many people do not get it from their family of origin. The love they get is based on actions—being a “good girl” or “good boy”—or it is given out sporadically when th

The crazy story of how ‘Stockholm syndrome’ got its name

#Movies #Hostage #PattyHearst #Psychology #StockholmSyndrome #Sweeden “Is there something wrong with me? Why don’t I hate them?” In 1973, 21-year-old Elisabeth Oldgren posed this question to a psychiatrist in the wake of a robbery in Stockholm, Sweden, in which she and three other bank workers had been held hostage from Aug. 23-28. As the standoff neared an end, police were perplexed by the victims’ concern for their two captors: Despite cops’ orders that the hostages be the first to leave the bank vault in which they’d all been holed up, all four refused. ame> “Jan and Clark [the criminals] go first — you’ll gun them down if we do!” 23-year-old Kristin Ehnmark yelled back. The nationwide spectacle led to the genesis of the term “Stockholm syndrome,” in which a person held against their will comes to sympathize deeply with their abductor. In America, the phrase is more commonly associated with the 1974 case of Patty Hearst, the kidnapped heiress turned bank robber. It h

Prepare to Quit : Explore Your Quit Smoking Options

#Cravings #HealthNews #Nicotine #NicotineWithdrawal #QuitSmoking #Smokefree Quitting is hard. But quitting can be a bit easier if you have a plan. When you think you’re ready to quit, here are a few simple steps you can take to put your plan into action. Know Why You’re Quitting Before you actually quit, it’s important to know why you’re doing it. Do you want to be healthier? Save money? Keep your family safe? If you’re not sure, ask yourself these questions: What do I dislike about smoking? What do I miss out on when I smoke? How is smoking affecting my health? What will happen to me and my family if I keep smoking? How will my life get better when I quit? Still not sure? Different people have different reasons for quitting smoking. Learn How to Handle Your Triggers and Cravings Triggers are specific persons, places, or activities that make you feel like smoking. Knowing your smoking triggers can help you learn to deal with them.  Cravings are short but intense urg