Texting and dating: One of the worst things you can do in a new relationship is text

#Relationship #CellPhone #Texting #Dating #Deathbytext #Textmessages #BlackMaleTherapist #Triple5Light.com #Couplestherapy

Dating couples often make the mistake of #texting everything instead of talking on the phone or simply meeting in person.
That's according to Claudia Duran, a Miami-based matchmaker with Elite Connections.
Duran said the meaning of text messages can easily be misconstrued and hurtful when someone doesn't text back right away.

Claudia Duran calls it "death by text."

"Two people like each other, and they're a little scared, and they're a little hesitant," she said. "And so they text everything."

Duran is a Miami-based matchmaker with Elite Connections. She works with Miami's affluent singles and people who are clearly invested in finding a relationship: A basic six-month membership costs $15,000, and a global membership (meaning you can meet people worldwide) costs at least $75,000.

Death by text is something Duran has observed over and over again. "Text is wonderful for logistics," she told me when we spoke by phone in July. But the meaning of a text message can also be easily "misconstrued."

What's more, Duran said, some people take offense if their partner takes a (seemingly) long time to text back.

Some research backs up Duran's argument.

A 2013 study published in the Journal of Couple and Relationship Therapy found that men who frequently sent or received texts from their partner were less satisfied with the relationship— and their partners were, too. (Conversely, women who texted their partner a lot said their relationship was more stable.)

The lead study author, marriage, and family therapist Lori Schade, told NPR: "Maybe it was a way for them [men] to check out or not have to show up, by using their cellphone instead."

Duran encourages all her clients to speak on the phone or meet up in person whenever possible. "Particularly when they start having feelings for each other," she added. "It's really important."

By Shana Lebowitz, www.businessinsider.com - July 14th, 2018

Comments

Bell Hooks - To Truly Love

#BellHooks #Love #Respect #trust #Communication #Triple5LightTherapy #BlackTherapist #Therapy

Grindr turns 10: How a decade with GPS 'dating' apps changed us all

#Grindr #JoelSimkhai #LGBTQ #App What Uber did for cars, so Grindr did for hooking up. A decade after its release, NBC Out reflects on the impact Grindr has had on the gay and bi community. On the day he launched Grindr — exactly 10 years ago this Monday — founder Joel Simkhai said the only phone call he received was from the competitor, Manhunt, with a buyout offer of “$20,000 or $35,000.” Simkhai declined. But after actor and comedian Stephen Fry demoed Grindr live on the British TV show “Top Gear” a few months later in June 2009, everything changed. Simkhai said there were 10,000 downloads overnight and it “felt like every gay man knew about it.” “It’s basically a gay cruising application,” Fry told “Top Gear” host James May. “Get this, when you load it,” Fry said, “up appear all kinds of faces and pictures. And what’s so amusing is, you press them and it goes like, ‘Hi, I’m Mike,’ and it tells you how close they are — it says 20 yards away.” Now, a...

Kanye West Proves He Might Be the Most Narcissistic Rapper in the Industry

#KanyeWest #Narcissism #KimKardashian #Religion Kanye West was once thought of as a musical visionary. While some believe he is still a genius, these days, West supporters are becoming few and far between. West’s new journey as a religious leader has earned a lot of criticism, from those who believe that he is not qualified to speak for the religious community. Of course, there is also the issue of West’s undeniable narcissism. Keep reading to learn how West could possibly be the most narcissistic artist in the music business and why people could soon stop paying attention to him. Kanye West has a history of narcissism Kanye West | Scott Dudelson/FilmMagic West rose to fame in the early 2000s, with his breakout album The College Dropout . West’s catchy rhymes and innovative rap beats endeared him to the musical community and it definitely seemed as though he had a bright future ahead of him. West has pioneered the way for ...

A call for equality and freedom, it became one of the defining moments of the civil rights movement

#MLK #MartinLutherKingJr #IHaveaDream I Have a Dream, speech by Martin Luther King, Jr., that was delivered on August 28, 1963, during the March on Washington. A call for equality and freedom, it became one of the defining moments of the civil rights movement and one of the most iconic speeches in American history. Some 250,000 people gathered at the Lincoln Memorial in Washington, D.C., for the March on Washington. The one-day event both protested racial discrimination and encouraged the passage of civil rights legislation; at the time, the Civil Rights Act was being discussed in Congress. The march featured various speeches as well as musical performances before King, a celebrated orator, appeared as the final official speaker; A. Philip Randolph and Benjamin Mays ended the proceedings with a pledge and a benediction, respectively. Early in his prepared speech, King referenced Abraham Lincoln’s Gettysburg Address with “Five score years ago….” He then spoke a...

Triple5Light Therapy

Search This Blog