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11 Reasons It’s Hard to Let Go of an Unhealthy Relationship

#Relationship #HealthyRelationship #UnhealthyRelationsip #LettingGo #Attachment #conflict Have you ever looked back at a previous relationship and wondered, “What was I thinking?” It may feel surprising to look back and realize how unhealthy a relationship was and wonder how you endured it for as long as you did. That’s why hindsight is 20/20. Perhaps you haven’t been in an unhealthy relationship yourself, but you’ve wondered why a friend or family member stays in a relationship that is clearly making them unhappy. Similar to a smudged windshield, it can be tough to see what’s right in front of you until the gunk is wiped away. Often, it’s not a lack of awareness that keeps people stuck in unhealthy relationships; deep down inside there is a voice calling for their attention urging them to face the truth but it’s being buried due to underlying fears. If you’re having difficulty letting go of an unhealthy relationship, consider whether any of the following reasons are playing a role: 1....

Four Ways to Turn Negative Body Thoughts Around Practice changing the disparaging things you say to your body into compassion.

#Compassion #Negative #Body #Thoughts  You may have already mastered the art of shutting down body shaming. But if you’re committed to cultivating a healthier body image, you’ll also need to tackle the negative things you say about your body. Sometimes that negative body talk comes in the form of conversations with others in which you badmouth your body, but other times these conversations happen in the privacy of your own mind. Psychologists refer to those unspoken conversations you have with yourself as “negative self-talk.” Consider what kinds of thoughts go through your mind when you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror. Do you say kind things to your body? Or do you disparage your body for every perceived flaw? It takes practice to learn to catch the negative thoughts you have about your body and re-frame them. But over time, you can change the mental habit of berating your body and learn to think gentler, more accepting thoughts. Try these suggestions to get start...

3 Tips to Improve your Self-Esteem

                                                                                                                                                                       Copyright: Leonardo Patrizi      #Self-Esteem #Empathy #confidence #Identity #senseofbelonging #Resilience   What is Self-Esteem? Self-esteem is the opinion you have about yourself and your abilities. It can be influenced by factors like your confidence, your identity, and your sense of belonging. Self-esteem can be high, low, or somewhere in-between. Low  Self-Esteem Having low se...

The 6 Domains of Resilience

 #BlackMaleTherapist #Psychotherapy #Triple5LightTherapy All are welcome, focusing on Black, Latin, BIPOC, and LGBTQ. I work with Individuals, Couples & Families. Uriah Cty, M.A., LMFT, ⁠ Ca, LMFT License #121606⁠ Co, LMFT License #0002067 ⁠ Ks, LCMFT License #03112⁠ 213.349.5550

Kadhja Bonet - Honeycomb (Audio)

#Honeycomb #KadhjaBonet #NeoRnB #RnB #Singer #Songwriter Kadhja Bonet (sounds like) Kad-ya was born in 1784 in the backseat of a sea-foam green space pinto. After spending an extraordinarily long time in her mother's plasma, she discovered the joys and gratifications of making noise with her hands and face while traveling at maximum velocity through intergalactic jungle quadrants.   Kadhja Bonet · Mother Maybe

Steve Forest vs The Ones - Flawless [Video]

#Flawless #SteveForest #TheOnes #DanceMusic #Remix Naturally, your entrance is grand Red carpet rolls out on the side they stand Worshipping you like a goddess (like a goddess) Somehow, you've remained modest Flashbulbs pop, paparazzi goes wild With amazing grace, you walk and smile They answer to your beck and call You're flawless After all overqualified for the position Your dreams see fruition Mere class on a higher plane Everyone wants to know your name Just like perfection Needs no correction Like no other Absolutely Flawless

Self-Love: You cannot love someone else until you learn to love yourself.

#Self-awareness #Self-worth #Self-Care #Self-Worth Most of us know what it is but do not understand what it is. You eat because you understand that you need nourishment. It is very sad that most of us are trying to conquer external battles like finding love, finding success, finding  happiness  and yet we do not understand that self-love is the root from which everything grows. It is because of the lack of self-love that we have many social conflicts in the world. How can we love the next person effectively before we have learned to love ourselves unconditionally? When you love yourself conditionally, you cannot love another unconditionally because why give someone else something you do not have? Our understanding of self-love is learned during  childhood  from those that cared for us. In most cases, it is taught unconsciously, we just got a glimpse from watching those that nurtured us.  Self-Love is more than just wearing nice attire and applying bouts...

4 Key Ways Your Childhood Shapes You

#childhood #childdevelopment While your childhood is part of you, it doesn’t have to dictate who you become. To say that the child is the father to the man is old news — we all realize the influence of our childhoods on the adult we become. Like the foundation of a house, our childhood experiences are the foundation on which the rest of our lives are built. And if the foundation is not solid — has emotional cracks and wounds — these affect the structure of our adult lives. Each of has a story that we walk out of our childhoods with — about the way our parents always argued, that our brother was abusive, our sister a support, our grandmother the rock that kept us stable, that school was hell. We fill in the story with memories — of that awful argument when our father punched a hole in the wall, that time our bullying brother held us down on the playground until the teacher made him get off, the kind attention of our sister when we lost a toy, the way our grandmother listened wh...

Stevie Wonder, his Musicality, and his Humanity.

#Humanity #Music #SongsintheKeyofLife #StevieWonder #Peace #Love #Light " Songs in the Key of Life " To say this Album means Everything to me is an understatement. Throughout his conceptual album, Stevie both sings and writes of Peace, Love, Identity, Faith, Environmental Consciousness, and Cultural Awareness , to name a few. When the album was released, I was ten years old. I spent countless hours reading the liner notes—the lyrics for all the songs. I wanted to know all the people who wrote, sang, played on the album. Much of the album's depth was far too over my head as a ten-year-old, and only a few years later (Lol) do I have a little more understanding of what he was giving us. I've seen Stevie Wonder three times in my life. The first was in church, not long after moving to Los Angeles. The second time while attending Oprah's Farwell show (thanks to my brother Corey & sister in law Carrie), the third time was when my sister Sharon (R.I.P.) bought ti...

Is the news cycle stressing you out? Here are 4 ways to protect your mental health

#MentalHealth #BlackMentalHealth #Stress #Depression #Anxiety #PTSD #Therapy It’s important to stay informed, of course. But experts say digesting too much trauma-related news is linked to a host of mental health issues, including depression, anxiety and posttraumatic stress symptoms. You might be exposing yourself to such news without even realizing it, just by using social media every day. ”[S]ome may log onto social media apps with intentions other than to get news updates but may inadvertently get exposed to news posts from connections,” Jacqueline Sperling, a clinical psychologist and faculty member at Harvard Medical School, tells CNBC Make It. So, how can you effectively manage your mental health while still staying informed? Here are four tips from top experts: Read summaries that don’t involve pictures or videos Audio and video can be very visceral: Seeing or hearing someone else suffering can take a toll on your own psyche. Sperling says news summaries without any pictures or...

Five Simple Ways to Start Communicating More Mindfully

#Communication #HealthyRelationship #Mindfulness  If you've ever practiced mindfulness, you're probably already aware of the many benefits it offers for the willing and dedicated practitioner. When we open ourselves to this practice, we create the potential for our lives to be transformed in ways that might seem subtle but are truly life-altering. Though many of the benefits of mindfulness are personal and internal—improved concentration, expanded sense of awareness, increased patience, and enduring states of tranquility, to name a few—some important aspects of the practice can positively affect our external experience as well. Take communication, for example. Using mindfulness in our communication with others can improve our relationships and help us navigate even the most difficult conversations. If you already have a practice of cultivating mindfulness, a little intention is all you’ll need to start applying it to your communication. If you haven’t yet developed a pra...

3 Things Good Listeners Consistently Do

#Listening #Silence #Reflection #Open-Ended-Questions #Triple5LightTherapy.com #BlackTherapist #Psychotherapy #LGBTAffirmingTherapy Posted Oct 03, 2020 In the Fall of 2016, I was a fresh graduate of the exercise science master’s program at SUNY Cortland where I was also teaching and coaching strength and conditioning. Frankly, I was in a rut. My relationship with my girlfriend was on the verge of collapsing and I was realizing I did not have upward mobility in my current position. The rut came to a head when I received a text from my girlfriend saying we needed to talk. My stomach dropped. I couldn’t focus. I sent a message to my advisor, Dr. Lind, who was a counselor before he was an exercise psychologist. “Can we talk?” I asked. He told me to come over to his office. I mustered together every ounce of strength I had. “Don’t you cry, whatever you do, don’t you cry” I said to myself. Dr. Lind told me to sit down. I don’t remember if I spoke first or just cried. Sentences were ...