3 Tips to Improve your Self-Esteem

Copyright: Leonardo Patrizi

#Self-Esteem #Empathy #confidence #Identity #senseofbelonging #Resilience

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem is the opinion you have about yourself and your abilities. It can be influenced by factors like your confidence, your identity, and your sense of belonging. Self-esteem can be high, low, or somewhere in-between.

Low Self-Esteem

Having low self-esteem might mean you aren’t confident in your abilities, your personality, or the value you bring to others in your life. Low self-esteem might be caused by:

Not feeling a sense of security in life
Doubts about your gender, sexuality, or body
Feeling like you don't belong with your family, friends, or colleagues.

Good Self-Esteem

On the contrary, having good self-esteem means you have positive beliefs about your abilities and your place in the world. It can be caused by:

Being confident in your ability to create change and withstand challenges in your life
A sense of confidence and pride in your identity
Feeling like you belong in your family, school, or group of friends.

- 3 Tips to Improve your Self-Esteem -

1. Set and maintain healthy boundaries

Learning how to set and maintain healthy personal and professional boundaries is one of the most powerful ways to raise your self-esteem. ]

2. Focus on small goals

Set smaller, manageable weekly goals or focus on changing one behavior instead. Choosing something achievable will make you feel better about yourself, maybe that’s walking 10 minutes a day, drinking more water, or reducing time spent on social media. It's important to be consistent; small wins are self-esteem boosters.

3. Celebrate yourself

Building healthy self-esteem is about valuing and accepting yourself, both the good and not so good. We learn from an early age, not to be boastful, and that we should not broadcast our accomplishments or we should hide our gifts because others might feel threatened, or perceive us as being " better than others or simply conceited.
If you want to practice celebrating yourself, and increasing your sense of self-acceptance and self-love. Start be journalling. Write down on people you have helped and how you helped them, things you love and appreciate about yourself, achievements you feel proud of, talents, and gifts you possess.
Remember how resilient you are and reflect on the times in your life when you’ve overcome adversity. And lastly, Cole emphasizes that raising your self-esteem is both a practice and a discipline that takes time to develop, so be gentle with yourself. “It does not happen overnight but your future happiness and life satisfaction make it worth your effort,” she says.

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