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Coping With Moods: The Challenge of the Turbulent Mind

#Mood #Impulses #selfregulate #selfsoothe  #Triple5LightTherapy #BlackMaleTherapist #Psychotherapy The power of moods and impulses can be overwhelming, but we can learn to self-regulate and self-soothe through awareness practices like meditation and mindfulness. By developing a healthy dialogue with our emotional nature, we can access deeper parts of ourselves and become more resilient in the face of stress and pressure. Rather than being swept away by our ever-shifting moods, we can learn to pause and reflect before acting. by Gillian McCann, Ph.D., and Gitte Bechsgaard, RP

How to Calm Your Own Anger in 60 Seconds or Less.

Getty Imnages #Anger #Calm #EmotionalIntelligence #Emotions #Thoughts #Mindfulness Do you ever get really  angry ? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I'm not talking about the competitive zeal you might get when a competitor beats you out for a lucrative sale and you feel determined to beat them out next time around. I'm talking about the rage that can take over when someone treats you unfairly or insults you, or even  cuts you off in traffic . That kind of anger can leave you feeling helpless, useless, self-pitying, and unable to  focus  on the tasks at hand. Wouldn't it be great if you could somehow quiet that anger when it first arises, so you could think logically about how to respond? Well, there is a way, and it comes from recognizing the truth about anger. Although it is a feeling, it results directly from what you're thinking, and from the meaning, you derive from the words or acts that have ticked you off. ...

The Power of Authentic Self-Esteem

#HealthyRelationships #selfesteem  What does it mean for someone to be truly authentic? And how many people do you know actually fit that description? Do you feel that you’re authentic? Let’s take a look at what this word truly suggests and just what blocks us from achieving authenticity. Naturally, the word authenticity evokes an image of something pure or unadulterated. A letter of authenticity confirms that a certain object or work of art is not a counterfeit. The act of authenticating is a process of determining that something is indeed genuine, as it is purported to be. Experts receive training to authenticate precious objects, memorabilia, and documents, among other rare items. Yet we have no such method for ascertaining the authentic nature of people. Short of being caught in a bold-faced lie or transgression, methods of determining an individual’s authenticity often go unexplored. One’s authentic nature is revealed in their ability to express and share what they think...

It's Okay to Feel Sad

By Uriah Cty, M.A., LMFT  We all feel sad at times. We experience a natural emotion in response to difficult or stressful situations. While sadness is generally considered normal, it can sometimes become overwhelming and last for an extended period of time. If you're struggling with sadness, know that you're not alone. There are ways to manage your feelings and get the support you need. 1. Everyone experiences sadness at some point in their lives Having a sad experience is a normal emotion that we all feel at different times in our lives. It's often triggered by negative life events, such as the death of a loved one, a beloved pet, or losing a job. While sadness is temporary for most people, it can become more severe and last for an extended period of 2. Sadness is a natural response to difficult situations While sadness is generally considered normal, it can sometimes become overwhelming and last for an extended period of time. If you're struggling with sadness, know t...

Don't Look too Closely!

#OletaAdams #Dontlooktooclosely #Vulnerability #Empathy #Honesty #Truth Don't ask, if you really don't want to know Don't say you will, if your heart keeps saying you won't Don't try, if you really don't want to go All the way, to the end of the road Don't look too closely Or you will see Part of my secrets Coming out in me

To Conquer Perfectionism, You Only Have to Fail

#Perfection #Perfectionism #Triple5Light.com #Triple5LightTherapy #AfricanAmericantherapist #Therapist  People who struggle with perfectionism can find it impossible to move forward if the prospect of failure looms ahead. Perhaps you’re working on a project and have a certain idea of how you’d like it to turn out. In your head, you know exactly how it should look and perform. However, as you sit down to tackle it, all you can see are the many ways it could deviate from this idealized image. This type of situation may not have serious implications other than being a bit frustrating, but what if this desire to be perfect hampers your ability to get things done in a work or other group setting? People can get fed up with you if you constantly insist on redoing everything they start. Perfectionism’s Perils According to Florida State University’s Sarah Redden and colleagues (2022), “Perfectionism is defined as refusing to accept” anything short of “being flawless,” (p. 1), a definition ...

How to deal with holiday stress: The psychology behind why family time can turn adults into moody teens again

#holidaystress #family #copingmechanism #conflict #Psychology #Triple5LightTherapy #Couplestherapy #BlackMaleTherapist  No matter how far away from home we travel, most of us can’t escape our familial history — and the memories that come with it. Along with shopping, gift-wrapping, and cookie baking, I’m prepping for the holidays by accepting that family stress may get the best of me. While I haven’t lived at home for over 20 years, conflict around heated topics like politics can make me feel like a misunderstood teen again. Listening calmly and objectively to my parents becomes harder and harder, and I interrupt more. Once, I even rolled my eyes at my mom like a pouty adolescent. My behavior, however, isn’t meant to be disrespectful or cruel, even though it might look that way. It’s actually a normal coping mechanism known as regression. As a psychologist, I’ve heard hundreds of family tales similar to mine. For many of us, reuniting with loved ones during t...