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How shutting down your feelings can be disastrous to your relationship.

  #Emotions #HealthyRelationships #Communication Research has shown that suppressing your emotions pretty well shuts down communication within that relationship. Let's chat about what the findings from one study might mean for your relationship. James Gross, a scientist who studies emotion, found that when we try to suppress emotion, this is what happens: • It's very hard to do - basically it doesn't work. We have to work very hard to shut an emotion down once it is up and running, and in the process, we often get more agitated and tense. This is especially true in close relationships when the trigger for the emotion, the other person, is still there giving us signals that get us all fired up. • Emotion doesn't stay inside our skin. When we try to shut feelings off, the people we are relating to also get more and more tense. When we are denying our feelings, our partners probably get tense because our faces register our feelings way faster than the thinking part of the 

"Hello December" A Soulful House, Holiday Mix by DJ Spivey

#deep #house #deephouse #djset #d jspivey #xmas Hello December: 00:00 Our First Christmas by DJ Spen & The Muthafunkaz 07:10 December by Frankie Feliciano feat. Monique Bingham 13:16 Silent Night by Eric Kupper 19:32 You Are Why (Ron Carroll BMC Vocal) by Dawn Tallman 25:27 Peace (Orienta-Rhythm Deeper Mix) by Orienta-Rhythm & Michelle Weeks 32:14 This Christmas (CDock Style Vocal) by DJ Pope & Charles Dockins feat. Adrian Blu 37:29 It's Holiday Time by Jihad Muhammad 41:49 Christmas Time is Here (Main Mix) by Elements of Life feat. Josh Milan Music in this video Song Our First Christmas Artist DJ Spen & The MuthaFunkaz Album Christmas In The House Licensed to YouTube by (on behalf of King Street Sounds); UMPG Publishing, and 3 Music Rights Societies Song December Artist Frankie Feliciano & Monique Bingham Album Christmas In The House Licensed to YouTube by (on behalf of King Street Sounds); ABKCO Mus

Tidings of Comfort & Joy / The Christmas Song

#Xmas #Christmas #TheChristmasSong #TidingsofComfort&Joy #NewYear #Peace #Joy #Love I pray the New Year Brings . . . .  More Joy,  More Peace and More Love to you All !! 

Maya Angelou, We Wear The Mask [VIDEO]

#MayaAngelou #TheMask  #BlackHistory #BlackAmerican  The Mask by Maya Angelou We wear the mask that grins and lies. It shades our cheeks and hides our eyes. This debt we pay to human guile With torn and bleeding hearts… We smile and mouth the myriad subtleties. Why should the world think otherwise In counting all our tears and sighs. Nay let them only see us while We wear the mask. We smile but oh my God Our tears to thee from tortured souls arise And we sing Oh Baby doll, now we sing… The clay is vile beneath our feet And long the mile But let the world think otherwise. We wear the mask. When I think about myself I almost laugh myself to death. My life has been one great big joke! A dance that’s walked a song that’s spoke. I laugh so hard HA! HA! I almos’ choke When I think about myself. Seventy years in these folks’ world The child I works for calls me girl I say “HA! HA! HA! Yes ma’am!” For workin’s sake I’m too proud to bend and Too poor to bre

5 Visualizations to Help Lessen Anxiety

  #Anxiety #MentaHealth #Therapy #BlackMaleTherapist #AfricanAmericantherapist #Triple5LightTherapy #ABLM #BLM #Latin #Asian #NativeAmerican #White #POC #LGBTAffirmingTherapy With many surveys showing that   anxiety is at heightened levels ever since the advent of the  COVID-19  pandemic, the struggle to manage  stress  is a common one. In my practice, I am seeing people identify with feeling overwhelmed, pessimistic, and frazzled. These feelings are compounded by a sense of uncertainty about the future, and no clear sense of when our daily lives' disruptions will no longer be so significant.  It's important to understand that stress—and by which I mean the classic definition of the stress response, which is your reaction to a stressor (a trigger)—is multi-faceted. It involves not just your thoughts, but your emotions, your behavior, and your body. When we feel like we are under a chronic stress response, or one that is particularly severe or unrelenting, anxiety begins to foll

A Timeline of How Online Dating Has Changed Over the Last 20+ Years

#Dating #Facebook #eHarmony #Tinder #OkCupid Online dating has come a long way in just a few decades. Match.com launched in 1995 — three years before Google — and became a pioneer in the pretty much nonexistent online dating scene. In those early days, it wasn’t clear online dating would be successful. The idea that singles could meet one another on the internet was a revolutionary concept viewed with skepticism and sometimes derision by the general public — at first. But by 2007,  online dating had become the second highest online industry  for paid content. How did this dramatic shift take place? The following movers and shakers in the industry had a hand in shaping online dating as we know it today. 2000: eharmony Takes a Psychology-Based Approach to Love Dr. Neil Clark Warren has had a long and impressive career as a relationship counselor, clinical psychologist, Christian theologian, and seminary professor, but, in 2000, he added online dating entrepreneur to his résu