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4 Strategies for practicing Radical Self-Acceptance

Radical Self-Acceptance Painting by Jennifer Mazzucco #mindfulness #self-judgment #RadicalSelfAcceptance #negativethinkingpatterns #thoughts Radical acceptance involves acknowledging how life unfolds without resistance, even if we don't like things at any given moment. It can take effort to apply this principle. How can we begin to accept our situation and ourselves despite experiencing anxiety, uncertainty, and fear? Why self-acceptance is not the same as complacency. It is essential now, more than ever, to practice radical self-acceptance. This means training ourselves to find inner stability despite unpredictable external circumstances. Ultimately, we are responsible for acknowledging our hidden wounds, which can lead to personal and collective growth. Radical self-acceptance is the opposite of avoiding responsibility or giving up in self-defeat. It requires pushing against old ways of being to open the door to deep healing. Embracing radical self-acceptance allows us to int

Life moves pretty fast

  “Life moves pretty fast. You don’t stop and look around once in a while; you could miss it.”   -Ferris Bueller’s Day Off- https://youtu.be/vsYBtfQ3QDo?si=NnS1VNjwXm6Av7ri https://qrco.de/bccGFt #BlackMaleTherapist #AfricanAmericantherapist #Triple5LightTherapy #FerrisBueller

Empathy, Compassion, Kindness

#Empathy #Kindness #Compassion #Triple5LightTherapy #BlackMaleTherapist  Empathy and compassion, while distinct, are deeply connected. Empathy acts as a gateway to compassion, serving as a transformative force. It involves understanding someone's emotions and imagining how they might resonate with you—a way of connecting.  Developing empathy is not a passive process but an active one. It can be achieved in various ways, such as understanding where the other person is coming from and their experiences. This is often referred to as 'walking in their shoes.' By approaching the other person with a gentle curiosity and acknowledging that we don't know the complete story, we can start to cultivate empathy. Another active way to build empathy is through active listening. This means carefully listening to the other person's words, understanding the underlying emotions, and reflecting on their words. Active listening encourages us to focus and connect more deeply, allowing u

Overcoming Resentment in Relationships

    #resentment #Anger #bitterness #jealousy #Shame #Trauma    It’s normal to feel resentment, which involves feelings of anger or bitterness over a slight injustice or a major incident. However, continuing to hold onto these feelings can have negative consequences for your physical and mental health. Some people avoid addressing their feelings and continue to harbor anger at their family members or significant other. For example, maybe your sister started dating your ex after you told her it was okay, but you can’t believe she went ahead and did it. As a result, you avoid seeing her or making snide comments when you’re with her as you are so angry. Others act out because of their resentment. Maybe you said something rude to someone at work because you can’t believe they were chosen over you for a special award.  Or after your significant other was unfaithful to you, you lashed out by choosing revenge to cheat to get back at them. This article will discuss the causes of resentment, si

How to Calm Your Own Anger in 60 Seconds or Less.

#Anger #Calm #EmotionalIntelligence #Emotions #Thoughts #Mindfulness Do you ever get really  angry ? And when it happens, especially at work, are the consequences good or bad? I'm not talking about the competitive zeal you might get when a competitor beats you out for a lucrative sale and you feel determined to beat them out next time. I'm talking about the rage that can take over when someone treats you unfairly, insults you, or even  cuts you off in traffic . That kind of anger can leave you feeling helpless, useless, self-pitying, and unable to  focus  on the tasks. Wouldn't it be great if you could somehow quiet that anger when it first arises, so you could think logically about how to respond? There is a way that comes from recognizing the truth about anger. Although it is a feeling, it results directly from what you're thinking and from the meaning, you derive from the words or acts that have ticked you off. To prove it, psychologist Jeffrey Nevid, Ph.D.,

What is a people pleaser?

#People-Pleaser #Boundaries #Sense-Worth #Assertiveness #HealthyRelationship Therapy #Triple5LightTherapy.com W hat is a people pleaser?  It is a person who sacrifices their own desires, thoughts, wants, needs, opinions, etc., for the approval of other people.  Individuals who want to please often have poor personal boundaries and a sense of self. They tend to look to others to define them and for their self-worth.  Traits of people pleasers : Never say “No” Can be passive-aggressive Internalize anger Often takes the blame Works hard Are easily satisfied Carry a lot of stress Struggle with being authentic Quick to agree with others Accommodating Loyal Team players Are often overweight Can be over-responsible in relationships. Hates conflict People pleasers often lack assertiveness, possess a dormant fight response (in the fight-flight system), and are susceptible to being exploited, abused, and neglected.  They tend to manage their personal relationships by listening and eliciting from